I have wanted to see a movie for months. To be honest, my desire wasn't based on anything I had read or heard...but based on a pretty red dress, a cute guy, and happy smiles. Yes, I can be shallow in my sappy movie selection.
Finally, this weekend Philip and I broke free from the kids and watched the movie in our secret child-free fort, a.k.a. our bedroom.
I am going to spoil this movie for you, so read on at your own risk. Will had been disabled in a bike accident 2 years earlier. He was completely unreachable by anyone and was determined to keep the sweet girl his mom had hired to care for him far away.
Louisa Clark was hired to spend the day with Will. Lou's family needed the money and she was determined to make the job work. She was incredibly quirky and wore the most atrocious outfits...I think her red dress in the picture was the only time she actually matched or coordinated in any way. I wouldn't be caught dead in anything she had on in this movie, but I love when people own their individuality...so it worked for me.
At first, it was rough. Then predictably, there was a connection and he let her in. She broke through his walls and they began a sweet friendship. He challenged her to live beyond her narrow town and to see the world. She cared for him and allowed him a glimpse into her sheltered small-town life. She finally dumped her self-absorbed boyfriend and then, just like I planned...they fell in love. A classic love story and exactly what I was looking for. Perfect.
But that wasn't the end.
He had a plan to end his life. The dialogue of the movie turned to his choice to live or die and how everyone should support him in his decision because his life was hard, the pain was difficult, and he was no longer the man he wanted to be. Lou began to work towards changing his mind, but in the end...she wasn't enough. His mind made up, he asked her to support him and to go with him to Switzerland to end his life. She met him there and in this beautiful, calm paradise next to the mountains, he ends his life. I am cringing as I write this.
What a waste of a life and love. I wasn't angry. I was sad, so very sad. I hate movies that stick with me...not because it was cute and fun, but because of the hopelessness and heartache that I know is so real for many.
I am not sure at what point in the movie I started crying. This was supposed to be fun! I really, really thought I was going to watch a happy love story that ended with everyone smiling in the end. You know the kind of movie that shows the pictures after the credits of their "happily ever after" life, their 3 kids, and a dog.
Instead, in the final scene, Lou is reading a letter at the cafe Will told her all about in Paris. In the letter, we learn that Will had left her enough money to leave her small town and now she was completely free.
All the way around, the message of this movie is just so wrong. Of course, Lou wasn't better off and who cares if you are free...if you are ALL BY YOURSELF.
I love my husband. I would rather have him with me handicapped than not have him with me at all. Period. That isn't selfish, that was the vow we made to each other. For better or worse...we are stuck with each other through the good, bad, and the ugly parts of life. Someday, he just may have to take care of me, but that is what people do for the ones they love.
I am not trying to minimize what it feels like to lose your mobility. It would be devastating to not have use of my body and to have to depend on other people for the basic functions of life. We have watched our loved ones deal with grave illnesses that have stolen everything from them. When they passed, there was not one person left in the room that thought it was a good thing that he or she was gone. To this day, we grieve their passing.
This movie places false hope in a premature end to life and introduces a topic that tells us it is our right to choose life or death. Once again we are presented with a scenario that does not represent the truth.
If that was my son, daughter, or husband...I would fight them every step of the way. I would fight passionately for them, I would intercede for them, and I would make it very difficult for them to walk away from me, from our family, from this life.
This morning we sang at church,
I believe in you.
I believe in you.
You're the God of miracles.
Yes, I got upset all over again. I really am such a weeper. I know there are people out there facing difficult situations without hope. Life can be bleak. Day after day we deal with the same circumstances, the same situations...loss, sickness, grief, betrayal, cancer, death, divorce. But there is a truth that is found in the midst of difficulty...with Christ, we can do all things. He is the author of our hope. This does not mean we have a guarantee our circumstances will change, this does mean that in the midst of our circumstances, God will give us the strength and courage to continue on and move forward.
I firmly believe this life is too much for any of us to endure without the power of the Jesus infiltrating every nook and cranny of our lives. It is only through his strength that I have peace and hope in the midst of difficulty because He is the God of all my miracles. He is my only hope that sustains me when the waves of adversity come crashing down on my life.
A better ending for this movie would have been that Will realized he still had so much life left to live, he still had something to offer those around him, and that it was worth the pain and hardship he had to endure just to find love.
A truly happy ending.
Living Completely Undone
I am a girl passionately in love with Jesus, my husband, and my children. I am forever learning how to live a life completely undone for my God. This blog is about my journey and a few funny stories in between.